Anger Management

By Mike Monahan, CEO and executive director of Life Success Seminars Inc.

In Life Success's Basic seminar, participants often tell me that they want to learn how to manage their anger. At this point, I usually ask, "So you want to be angry?"

Of course, people say that they don't want to be angry--they just want to be less angry. It sounds like a play on words, but the goals are very different.

If you want to manage anger, then your bottom-line belief is that you aren't capable of letting go of your anger. Anger is a feeling everyone experiences, but when people speak of "anger management," I think they are living angry.

Each of us has a choice to experience and stay angry, or we can experience anger followed by forgiveness.

Hint: Be ready, because the steps of forgiveness often contain a lot of anger!